Sex Toys

It seems to be a common assumption that all men are potentially 'put out' by their girlfriends owning a vibrator, and that a dildo replaces a woman's need for a man. This is certainly an incorrect assumption. Plenty of women feel more comfortable buying a vibrator and using it to learn more about what pleases her best but ultimately a dildo or vibrator helps improve her sexual relationship with you. If your girlfriend does have a vibrator, incorporate it into your sexual play by you taking control of her toy.

Most vibrators will have a speed dial so make full use of the different settings when playing with her - start slowly with a low setting. Don't just insert the vibrator straight into her vagina; use the toy to tease her. Place the vibrator on different sensitive spots on her body - enjoy finding out which sensations she likes best by moving the vibrator over different parts of her body. Tease her by moving the head of the vibrator around the clitoris without directly touching it, until she asks you for more. For a variation hold her vibrator in your hand while you stroke her clitoris for a special pleasurable feeling.

As your partner builds towards climax, play cat and mouse, by slowing the vibrator again or withdraw it completely teasing your girlfriend until she moans for more. Women can find it hard to orgasm just through penetration alone, keep the vibrator going as part of sex, by putting her on top and putting the vibrator at the base of your penis will send waves of pleasure for both of you. Alternatively you could tease her clit with a sex toy while you take her from behind.

If you are not confident using a vibrator to tease and pleasure your girlfriend, ask her to show you what she likes to do with her own toy, what better way is there than to watch and learn? Another option to drive her crazy is a wireless vibrator - giving you the control over her orgasm. Nothing can beat the excitement of a man controlling his partner's pleasure via remote control. Using a wireless remotes means the opportunities to enjoy this discreet toy are endless; get your girlfriend to wear it wherever she dares!

A vibrator can also provide amazing stimulation for men; use it gently on the head, shaft and base of the penis. Anal vibrators can help achieve a great high for men and women, talk to your partner about what they enjoy and have fun searching for play things and vibrators online together.

By: Jessica Heart

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Eddie Yakubovich asked:


If you don't already know by now, all kinds of sex toys, especially dildos and vibrators feel really good. You think that just by saying that that it's enough to convince couples that incorporating sex toys into their love making is all the thought you could ever need.

Think again. People still do feel a bit uncomfortable, embarrassed, and are not as liberal as they think they are when you try to talk about sex toys of any kind. Men like to see their partner experiencing an orgasm.

There is usually one person in a relationship that is more open-minded and adventuresome than the other person. That's the person that wants to play sex toys. This is usually the male. It doesn't matter is your straight or gay. Men know that for a woman to reach an orgasm and multiple times it takes work.

First and foremost, my advise has always been never just surprise your partner with a vibrator, dildo of any shape or size without feeling him or her out first on how receptive they are to trying one. If you think that your partner is more into liking surprises then by all means bring one home and slip in where ever is most pleasing.

Secondly, make sure your partner understands that incorporating sex toys into your relationship doesn't make you weird or perverted at all. Many kinds of people that you and I would consider normal really do use sex toys. It's a fact that sex toys enhance an orgasm or better yet, make you have one.

Finally, if your partner is still uncomfortable about using sex toys have her do some research about the topic on the internet or even talk about it with someone she or he trusts. Most couples are usually in their mid 20's before they become curious enough to begin the venture.

Sometimes it can be helpful to arouse your partner first by watching a mild erotic video or read erotic books together to start the mood going. Tell your partner that all you want to do is please her even more. By your partner feeling confident that it has absolutely nothing to do with them and their love making techniques you can feel a bit more secure and go with something different.

With sex toys of all kinds, the fact of the matter is, it is less work for you. Now keep in mind that it doesn't make you a sexual freak or masturbator in any way. It's really all about enhancing sensations and the only way to do that is through something that vibrates.



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