Sex Toys

People often get confused and think of sex toys as something you use alone. They are a fabulous way to enhance your love making WITH your partner. I'm going to outline some ideas for how to use one of your vibrators with your lover. Obviously, they are fab for solo fun, but can REALLY amp up the intensity of partner sex. If you have a male partner that is a little bit apprehensive about incorporating a sex toy, just do as my friend Joan Price says and tell him you're ready for a "threesome." You, him and B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend)

If he is still hesitant, make it all about him.

1. While you are giving him a oral sex put the vibrator against your cheek on the outside so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating. Just adds a bit of tingle and a new sensation for him.

2. Take your panties or g-string off and wrap a bullet style vibrator in your panties and then rub the vibrator on his testicles, the shaft of his penis, all over his nipples and then maybe a little on your nipples, too. He will feel the silkiness of your panties and the vibe! FUN!

3. For men who are more comfortable with a vibrator, rub it on his testicles while you are giving him oral. This can make a b.j. very efficient, ladies. (Some men finish much more quickly then normal when they have a vibe on their balls. Just saying.)

4. For men that are super comfortable with toys, rub a little lube on the perineum (taint) and rub that area with a small vibe. Make sure he knows he can trust you not to do anything he is not comfortable with while you are in that area. (Most men describe a prostate massage as one of the most intense orgasms they have ever felt, but not all men are ready for that and NOBODY wants to be surprised in that area.) But, light vibration under the balls on that little soft spot can be very intense for them.

5. How about giving him a massage and tucking a small vibe into your hands while you massage his inner thighs, his back, his neck and the back of his thighs with some oil and a vibe. There is also something called a massage mitt which you can use for massage and tuck in a vibe into the mitt.

6. While he is going down on you, have him slide a small g-spot toy like the Finger Fun into your vagina with the g-spot tip angled towards your g-spot which is on the belly button wall of your vajayjay. You will have a super intense orgasm and it will make oral on you VERY efficient. He can also tease your clitoris with it and help you to have a clitoral orgasm very quickly.... or maybe two... or three.... or four???

7. Give up total control and give him the battery pack. Try giving him oral sex or while he is inside of you, put it on you clitoris. Give him the control and let him turn the vibe up or down. (Very fun with the 5 speed bullet as it has 5 pulsations and escalations and can get you trembling and climaxing together!) You won't know where he is going with it and it can really add to the anticipation and the playfulness that will make your experience that much better.

8. Tie him up or maybe just blindfold him and make it all about him for an hour or a half an hour. Get him good and relaxed and touch every inch of his body with your hands, tongue and body...but occasionally slide a vibrator on low on his more sensitive areas.... but avoid touching his penis for a little while. Have fun watching his penis twitch, get hard, relax, get hard and repeat. You can get a feel for which sensations he REALLY likes and which sensations he really DOES NOT like by watching the reaction of his penis. FILE THIS AWAY ladies! Good info for later.

9. Last but not least, find your favorite toy in your dirty drawer and give it to him. Let him know you want a little warm up with your fave toy, but you want to include him. Have him strip down, lie next to you, cradle your back or neck with one of his arms so you are face to face and able to make out. He has the toy in his other hand and can use it on you while still feeling like is a part of the process. (Though some men love to be in the "catchers" position up close and personal with the toy and your clitoris.) It's a great way to feel very connected when you are using a toy with your lover.

For women, a small vibrator on their clitoris is pretty much a guaranteed orgasm. Our BONUS TIP #10. When you are making love, put a small bullet on your clitoris while you are on your back back, or while you are having sex doggy style, or on your side, you on top, reverse cowgirl... you name it, it works. You get the benefit of a clitoral orgasm from penetration which rarely happens. He gets the bonus of knowing you had an orgasm so he does not have to worry and ask that dreaded question. And, when a woman climaxes, her vagina contracts and tightens down on the penis and can really enhance his experience! It's a WIN WIN!

By: Chrystal L. Bougon

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A sextoy is any object or device that is primarily used in facilitating human sexual pleasure. The most popular SexToys are designed to resemble human genitals and can be classified as vibrating or non-vibrating. Sex toys usually do not include contraceptives, pornography, or condoms.

A related "softer" term is adult toy. Another related term is marital aid, often used as a euphemism for sex toys, although marital aid is broader as it can also be applied to drugs and herbs marketed as supposedly enhancing.

Types of sex toys:

A penis sleeve” Pocket pussies" or "vaginas" or "masturbators modeled to accept a penis for simulated intercourse.

Cock rings in their most basic form enhance and prolong a man's erection. A man may wear a cock ring because he has erectile difficulties, or because he likes the particular sensation of tightness and engorgement that wearing one provides. Some models include a protruding clitoral stimulator. Some cock rings have vibrators attached.

A triple crown is a cock ring that has additional rings for restraining the testicles. A triple crown changes and intensifies the sensations.

A cock harness is a more elaborate harness designed to be worn around the penis and scrotum. Its

intention is similar to that of a cock ring.

A penis sleeve is a cylindrical device that is placed on the shaft of the penis, with the aim of increasing stimulation. They often have soft bumps intended to provide further stimulation.

A penis extension is a partially hollow device like a very short dildo, with the hollow end placed on the end of the penis, intended to increase the effective length of the penis. These are generally worn with condoms to stop them falling off in use.

A docking sleeve is a cylindrical device similar to a penis sleeve, but is open at both ends, so that two men can dock.

Vaginal / Clitoral stimulation

A dildo is a non-vibrating device that is used for sexual stimulation of the vagina and/or anus.

A double-ended dildo is a long, usually flexible dildo with both ends designed for penetration.

Vibrators are vibrating devices intended to stimulate the nerves of the body. Vibrators intended for sexual use are often dildo-shaped, although they also come in a wide range of shapes and sizes, allowing internal as well as external use. Most women report using vibrators for stimulation and as such models designed for this purpose.

Ben WA balls are hollow metal balls, are inserted vaginally, and can be worn inside the vagina for extended periods.

Kegel exercisers, also known as vaginal barbells, are designed to improve muscle tone in the pelvic floor, and can be used for sexual pleasure.

Glass sex toys are becoming common. These are made from Pyrex glass that provides a very strong solid object. Glass dildos are commonly used with lubrication because this combination offers very low resistance.



By: Richard Scott

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