Sex Toys

People often get confused and think of sex toys as something you use alone. They are a fabulous way to enhance your love making WITH your partner. I'm going to outline some ideas for how to use one of your vibrators with your lover. Obviously, they are fab for solo fun, but can REALLY amp up the intensity of partner sex. If you have a male partner that is a little bit apprehensive about incorporating a sex toy, just do as my friend Joan Price says and tell him you're ready for a "threesome." You, him and B.O.B. (Battery Operated Boyfriend)

If he is still hesitant, make it all about him.

1. While you are giving him a oral sex put the vibrator against your cheek on the outside so he can feel your mouth humming and vibrating. Just adds a bit of tingle and a new sensation for him.

2. Take your panties or g-string off and wrap a bullet style vibrator in your panties and then rub the vibrator on his testicles, the shaft of his penis, all over his nipples and then maybe a little on your nipples, too. He will feel the silkiness of your panties and the vibe! FUN!

3. For men who are more comfortable with a vibrator, rub it on his testicles while you are giving him oral. This can make a b.j. very efficient, ladies. (Some men finish much more quickly then normal when they have a vibe on their balls. Just saying.)

4. For men that are super comfortable with toys, rub a little lube on the perineum (taint) and rub that area with a small vibe. Make sure he knows he can trust you not to do anything he is not comfortable with while you are in that area. (Most men describe a prostate massage as one of the most intense orgasms they have ever felt, but not all men are ready for that and NOBODY wants to be surprised in that area.) But, light vibration under the balls on that little soft spot can be very intense for them.

5. How about giving him a massage and tucking a small vibe into your hands while you massage his inner thighs, his back, his neck and the back of his thighs with some oil and a vibe. There is also something called a massage mitt which you can use for massage and tuck in a vibe into the mitt.

6. While he is going down on you, have him slide a small g-spot toy like the Finger Fun into your vagina with the g-spot tip angled towards your g-spot which is on the belly button wall of your vajayjay. You will have a super intense orgasm and it will make oral on you VERY efficient. He can also tease your clitoris with it and help you to have a clitoral orgasm very quickly.... or maybe two... or three.... or four???

7. Give up total control and give him the battery pack. Try giving him oral sex or while he is inside of you, put it on you clitoris. Give him the control and let him turn the vibe up or down. (Very fun with the 5 speed bullet as it has 5 pulsations and escalations and can get you trembling and climaxing together!) You won't know where he is going with it and it can really add to the anticipation and the playfulness that will make your experience that much better.

8. Tie him up or maybe just blindfold him and make it all about him for an hour or a half an hour. Get him good and relaxed and touch every inch of his body with your hands, tongue and body...but occasionally slide a vibrator on low on his more sensitive areas.... but avoid touching his penis for a little while. Have fun watching his penis twitch, get hard, relax, get hard and repeat. You can get a feel for which sensations he REALLY likes and which sensations he really DOES NOT like by watching the reaction of his penis. FILE THIS AWAY ladies! Good info for later.

9. Last but not least, find your favorite toy in your dirty drawer and give it to him. Let him know you want a little warm up with your fave toy, but you want to include him. Have him strip down, lie next to you, cradle your back or neck with one of his arms so you are face to face and able to make out. He has the toy in his other hand and can use it on you while still feeling like is a part of the process. (Though some men love to be in the "catchers" position up close and personal with the toy and your clitoris.) It's a great way to feel very connected when you are using a toy with your lover.

For women, a small vibrator on their clitoris is pretty much a guaranteed orgasm. Our BONUS TIP #10. When you are making love, put a small bullet on your clitoris while you are on your back back, or while you are having sex doggy style, or on your side, you on top, reverse cowgirl... you name it, it works. You get the benefit of a clitoral orgasm from penetration which rarely happens. He gets the bonus of knowing you had an orgasm so he does not have to worry and ask that dreaded question. And, when a woman climaxes, her vagina contracts and tightens down on the penis and can really enhance his experience! It's a WIN WIN!

By: Chrystal L. Bougon

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Gonzalo

Introducing sex toys into a relationship can take both pleasure and intimacy to the next level and then some. In addition, the element of "fun" is brought into the picture, and being in a fun, playful relationship is something few couples truly achieve due to poor communication. With a sex toy, you can easily build a bridge toward fun sexual intimacy. Here are three important ways to bring sex toys into a relationship.

1. Start slow! Remember you're building a bridge and before you can put up the foundation you need to prep the work area. Introducing any outside element into sexual relations can be challenging. The easiest prep tool to use in order to ease into sex toys, are lotions or oils. What you are doing here is simply introducing a third element into your intimate relations, and you're starting with something simple. Once erotic oils and lotions are used, you've opened the door for other intimacy tools to be added in the future.

2. The foundation! You're foundation will set the stage for further sex toy adventures, so it's important to choose the right foundation. What you're looking to do here is to introduce an actual sex toy into the relationship. But it has to be a sex toy which is simple, gentle, and easy. In other words your foundation sex toy shouldn't be some elaborate contraption. You'll easily scare off your partner. Your foundation should be basic and something easy which you can further build upon in the near future. Various ticklers and the like would be an example of a simple foundations to begin building your sex toy adventures around.

3. Avoid the Crutch! You want to avoid becoming sex toy addicted and every intimate encounter having to rely on a sex toy. That is, don't turn a sex toy into a crutch. Use it only to enhance the relationship, not serve as the centerpiece where every intimate encounter is going to require a sex toy in order for pleasure to be achieved.

Sex toys, or intimacy tools, can be used as an automatic bridge to bring one another closer while achieving intimacy on a level never previously experienced.

By: Chess McDoogle

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Aden

Sex toys are becoming increasingly popular with couples all over the world. The best part about the usage of these pleasure machines is that they are not restricted to any particular age group. Couples belonging to any generation can tease and please each other easily and effectively with the help of such toys. The fact that you are investing in a toy of this sort means that you are hoping to have a sex life that is better and more gratifying. To ensure this, the knowledge of best sex toys is absolutely essential.

There is no one universal adult toy, which can appeal to all the sexual requirements of all couples. The needs of different people are different and hence there is an extensive variety of such toys that are made available in the markets. However, the best sex toy is the one that is simple to use, easy to acquire and made of good quality materials. It is a myth that the more advanced the toy, the more is the level of satisfaction it provides. The vibrator is by far the most commonly used and most demanded sex toy because it is a very simple machine, which not only makes the person using it shiver with pleasure but also can be used by almost everyone.

There are innumerable varieties of vibrators available today, each of them designed for the diverse needs of people. For your toy to be the best adult toy, you must also ensure that it is made up of the finest quality material so that you do not end up with health hazards. Please remember, sex toys should be bought only from reputed sources where you can be sure of the quality. An attempt to save small sums of money by buying cheap products could cost you dearly in the long run. A sex toy, which is made of hypoallergenic materials, is the best option anyone can choose.

No matter how big or small, simple or complex, manual or mechanical, cheap or expensive, the main purpose of a sexual aids is to help both partners please each other in a way that they have never done before. Any toy that can serve this purpose can safely be termed as the best sexual aid toy. If you make it a point to buy a good quality adult toy, it is bound to make your sex life go from good to better to best in no time and help you connect better with your partner not only physically but also mentally and emotionally. All you need to do is conduct a little bit of research and choose amongst the sea of sex toys depending on your tastes and preferences. A good sex toy is the sure shot road to both your and your partner's ecstasy.

By: Jessica Heart

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Mikayla

When it comes to improving your sex life sometimes the things that are actually very good at enhancing your sexual relationships can also do the exact opposite when done or used at the wrong time or wrong way.

For instance using sex toys to enhance your sexual relationships has been proven time and time again to be a great way in doing so. However, there are certain times when the addition of a sex toy actually becomes more of a hindrance than actually helps.